|My Funny Valentine|
Saturday, January 17, 2015
I am a widow.
Dow left my side at 1:57am. We were at home, surrounded by friends and family. He waited until our sadness passed and chose to leave listening to epic "Dow" stories.
His liberation is now my suffering. I am so grateful his spirit is finally cancer-free.
"For never before in story or rhyme, (not even once upon a time) has the world ever known a you my friend, and it never will, not ever again."
Tuesday, January 6, 2015
Saturday morning was the first time he'd really presented with the tell-tale signs of a Pulmonary Embolism. After about 45 minutes of not being able to calm him down, I ran to the drugstore and purchased a saturation monitor. This device checks heart rate and the percentage of oxygen flowing throughout the body. A healthy person's is usually 95-100%. When I got home, Dow's was 61%. The fact that he was talking and coherent with this number is an anomaly. We decided to call an ambulance.
Pulmonary Emboli are blood clots in the lungs which prevent proper blood flow and gas exchange. Left untreated, they are always fatal. We both also knew that the treatment for these is administered blood thinners-a contraindication for brain tumors. As the risk is very high for these tumors to start uncontrollably bleeding.
Dow remained calm, and asks for a few minutes in our room-he felt he would not be returning home. This really disturbed me, as anyone who has been around beings approaching the end-they usually know. Having met they way we did, we spent a lot of time having extremely morbid discussions. And after everything we've gone through now, I knew the plan was for Dow to be made a DNR when the time came. Luckily, for me-he was able to give me the gift of telling the paramedics that he was not to be intubated and compressed if it came to that himself. I was not going to have to make that call watching him gasp for air. Thank you, love.
Soon enough, the CT came back with a positive PE diagnosis. After much discussion, we decided to take the risk with Lovonox shots. Dow was admitted to the ICU for 3 days receiving blood thinners and oxygen therapy.
We were able to return home last night. He is doing great, wearing in home oxygen, and getting lovonox shots twice daily. The oxygen will probably be temporary. Just until the clot fully resolves-the thinner on the other hand will be indefinitely.
While I was not prepared to lose Dow on Saturday, a massive PE would have been a peaceful and acceptable exit for all of us. There is still a risk of the medication causing a massive head bleed at any moment-but this risk was worth taking with the alternative.
|Sloane and Dow playing "hospital" at home|